Thursday, July 30, 2009

Hey Guys, Why Do You Stare ??? What are You Looking at Asshole??


In Pakistan girls are stared to death, we love staring & it leads to visual harassment, annoyance and discomfort for girls.

Today my female friends posed this question to me; in return I posed same to my male friends in the evening. My friends gave me a scientific answer; "guys are visually stimulated, and girls are emotionally stimulated. It all boils down to that.

Yeah, we all love a good backrub, but for guys it starts with visual stimuli.It's not necessarily a compliment that a guy is staring at you but it's just nature at work.

I have noticed girls reading sensual novels such as Sidney Sheldon or teenagers into M&B stuff and guys running after visual treat through erotic web sites.

I have suggestion, If a guy just stares, all you do, let him stare, then there's nothing going on here. Meanwhile, catch his stare next time, look back and smile, don't look away: P

Jokes apart, I have noticed,closed societies are more hungry for glimpse of women, in open societies it is rare that people notice. Be it open neck, cleavages or skin tight top or girl in two piece bikini, it is rare anyone stares".

Does this mean, answer lies in freedom????

One of my American friends shared with me that staring gets back to the sexual repression of Pakistani society. Staring is very socially unacceptable in the US and very often can illicit a response like,"What are you looking at asshole?" LOL

Another American friend believes that "here in the US when a woman looks at you its okay (they even pass a remark like...he's sooo hot) but when a guy does it, it becomes socially unacceptable. The western society is no better than Pakistani...women, they are all essentially the same wherever you go my friends. The so-called civilized ones are even worse. Men, in the US, do sometimes get an illicit response like "what are you looking at ASSHOLE?". And they sometimes get a reply like, "AT YOUR FUGLY FACE YOU BITCH" LOL"

My Nigerian friend BUNMI believes that "Interesting i think ur girls also need to stare back and stare hard well its not in ur culture to do that but if they adopt this the men will learn to take things easy.Men! MEN!! its just that we can't do without each other, the Mystery of life??Its in born in you(Men) to admire, ogle and stare at Gods Unique being Women(lol) u can't help it yea?"

No offense, these are just views of my friends, one may agree or disagree :)

10 comments:

Liz said...

EWWW staring is SO CREEPY. Again it gets back to the sexual repression of that society. Staring is very socially unacceptable in the US and very often can illicit a response like,

"What are you looking at asshole?" LOL*

Imran Baloch said...

LOL, i guess Pakistani girls also respond to them " What are you looking at Asshole:)

Anonymous said...

Imran, here in the US when a woman looks at you its okay (they even pass a remark like...he's sooo hot) but when a guy does it, it becomes socially unacceptable. The western society is no better than Pakistani...women, they are all essentially the same wherever you go my friends. The so-called civilized ones are even worse.

Men, in the US, do sometimes get an illicit response like "what are you looking at ASSHOLE?". And they sometimes get a reply like, "AT YOUR FUGLY FACE YOU BITCH" LOL

Anonymous said...

Imran, here in the US when a woman looks at you its okay (they even pass a remark like...he's sooo hot) but when a guy does it, it becomes socially unacceptable. The western society is no better than Pakistani...women, they are all essentially the same wherever you go my friend. The so-called civilized ones are even worse.

Men, in the US, do sometimes get an illicit response like "what are you looking at ASSHOLE?". And they (women) sometimes get a reply "AT YOUR FUGLY FACE YOU BITCH" LOL

The Divine Ms. Jimmi said...

The blatant lack of manners and understanding of Western Culture is appalling and offensive here. Staring at a person, man or woman is considered rude. We are all taught as children not to stare. In many cultures, staring is considered an act of aggression.

If you want to be scientific, then you would know that animals initiate aggression by staring. If you would like, we can shut you in a room with an animal and have you stare at it and you will find that the animal becomes aggressive.

Feminists have long addressed the issue of staring as an aggressive act on the part of a man turning the woman into a sex object.

If calling a woman an "ugly bitch" is a sign of freedom and respect, one begs to ask what society engenders this freedom.

More importantly, ask yourself this: would you feel comfortable with a man staring at your mother or sister for a prolonged period of time in a way that you stare at women? do they like it? Would you call them an "ugly bitch?"

Imran Baloch said...

Divine Miss Jimmi, i agree with you. If you read my blog carefully these are the views of different individuals, i just initiated a discussion. Also read my disclaimer in the end.

If you scan through my blog you will find alot of material in support of women right.

Dont i have right to bring forward the diverse views of different individuals ?? I am trying to find out the reasons without reidiculing any gender.

Think about it, look forward to your views.

Anonymous said...

Why did you not comment on the first part of my comment? I was just illustrating a typical American response to "what are you staring at ASSHOLE?" Lack of understanding of western culture!!! This IS western culture. I would wouldn't make such a remark...that comment would come from one of your die hard custodian of an American culture. All these disrespectful terminologies are used against women in the American society that we don’t have the vocabulary for. Listen to your songs and watch your movies. Maybe you get an understanding of the western culture once and for all. Get real.
Do you know that more rape and/or women abuses whether physical or sexual, are committed in the western world than any other world? Western world is the only world where child molestation is so rampant against their own children. Don't even try to say that you are superior to other because the facts show otherwise.
Look at your comment...you are so hostile against me...using a pronoun YOU and I a non-westerner using 'one' as a pronoun not 'you'. You are directing your hostility in shape of verbal abuse towards my mother. But I would not do the same for you because then there would be no difference between you and I. I wouldn't put myself at the same level as you are because I wasn't raised that way.

Jawaid said...

Staring is a rude behavior period; it doesn’t matter who does it. However, as a human weakness, we are all (regardless of gender or race) susceptible to it.

I have personally experienced being stared at every time I go out with my significant other (I am an oriental and she is an occidental) and I live in America. I abominate that behavior to its full extent. And by the same token, when we go to an ethnic food place from my region, my significant other gets the stares…she abhors that...but don’t we all; we are human for Pete sake.

Women deserve more respect. There are numerous sexual slurs used against them and western culture, pardon me if I am wrong, generates more and more derogatory slurs against women everyday. Consult urban dictionary for evidence. If we take a minute and ponder upon human socio-cultural history, we find that virtually all verbal abuses are directed towards female…and pop culture has really added to this moral dilemma. I was taught paradise lies beneath the feet of mothers...but all we offer today a never ending list of slurs.

h0nee said...

There is n0thing in the w0rld m0re disc0mf0rtig and irritating than a guy staring at u . Its n0t just the stare , its the way he stares at u , h0w and where ..
all this is s0 heart rending ..
and today this is n0t just restricted t0 the so called stare .. hide0us c0mments f0ll0wing the stares must b0t be f0rg0tten ..
and @ imran .. agree girls d0 resp0nd t0 them at times , s0 , guys sh0uld stick t0 the 0nes wh0 resp0ngd t0 them .. y t0 make lief difficult f0r the rest ..
trust me i have felt it .. n0thing in the w0rld is m0re disc0uraging , ann0ying and painfull than a stare like this !!!

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